A few notes from dr Becky Kennedy on self-care and boundaries

I absolutely love Dr Becky Kennedy’s work, and as I was going through my old notebooks I found some words I would love to share.

” When you see other’s feelings as theirs and not your own, you establish that the two of you are separate which is what boundaries are all about. The only person you need to convince when you set a boundary is yourself. The more you focus on convincing yourself the more others will respect your assertions of needs. My boundaries are meant to protect myself not convince others, I have my own approval. Our feelings make us human and remind us that we are alive and real. All stories serve the same purpose: they tell us story about ourselves. All feelings are allowed even the ones we don’t expect. It doesn’t work to ignore our needs and take care of others. What do I want from me, am I letting myself down? Resentment is a sign that I need to take care of my needs.”